Life has this funny way of throwing curve balls at us and the unexpected just happens. It throws us for a loop and well “change” has to take place whether we like it and accept it or not. Change….its such a hard thing to do. Why? Because it is so full of the unexpected. Is that ever a consideration when we ask our families to change to make things better for us or when we tell our spouses that they need to stop the way they are doing things and do it the way we say it should be done? I remember when I first embarked on my home organization journey, it threw my family completely for a loop. Things were moved from the last place they remembered putting them and the cereal moved from the top of the refrigerator to its proper cereal container in the pantry. My family kicked and screamed because the unexpected had happened and they had to change. The change started with me when I saw a better way for my family. I saw a system that worked and made complete sense, “create a place for everything and place it back there every time it is used. If it is not useful then get rid of it. Less is more.” I learned that system growing up, only now I needed to apply it to my life. Since I had not been applying it, I was not requiring it of my family. In order for me to require it of them, I first had to require it of myself. It was easy for me to encourage my family and coach them through the household change because I had been through the change. I was the one who tore my house up and put it back together neatly. I was the first to run around the kitchen opening and closing cabinet doors trying to prepare dinner and asking myself why did I reorganize the kitchen in the first place. It was so easy for me to see things that others had left lying around the house, but the pill was super hard to swallow when I stepped into the laundry room, also known as my mess. Guess what, I had to change and get it together.
As much as we want our families to change, we must realize that this change will start with us and will affect us. Not only will they change, but we will change too. Before we pray for the Lord to touch our spouses hearts and draw them closer to him, and before we ask him to help our children become more obedient, and respectful and possess a burning desire to be more like him and walk in his ways, we must first pray those things for ourselves. The change has to began with us.
Matthew 7:4-5 (NLT) How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.
I had a prayer in mind as you can see, but as I ironed clothes, I felt something totally different in my spirit. The movie fireproof came to mind and the song While I’m Waiting(John Waller) from the movie started to play in my head. Let this be our prayer instead.
Lord, Thank you for revealing to us the need to fast and pray for our ourselves as well as our families. Reveal to us the areas that we need to concentrate on cleaning up and organizing in our own personal lives. It is so easy to find fault and blame in others and say what they are not doing right or what they can do better and not see the mess we are standing in in our very own lives. We are not the best mothers and not the best wives. We fall short daily and it is by your grace Lord that we are able to accomplish what we have accomplished with our families. We desire to be more like you. We want to love the way you love. Teach us how to respect our husbands and our children. Teach us how to balance the cares of life as well as the spiritual things. Let us not fall into hypocrisy Lord but teach us how to deal with ourselves first so that we can be effective in dealing with others. All that we want for our families we also want for ourselves. We desire to come out of this fast with more strength and more power and better tools than what we went in with. We accept the challenge to change our families through fasting and prayer and we accept the challenge that it first muse began with us!!!!!