Fast for Family – Week 2 – My Husband

I find it so easy to pray a general prayer of protection and a deeper relationship with God for my husband. I even found myself praying selfishly about things that I desired to see change in him. I had to repent.  I have since decided to ask my husband what I can join him in prayer about and from there, allow the holy spirit to intercede for him on my behalf. Our husbands deal with so much. They have so many weights to carry. They are not just responsible for themselves, but for their wives, children, households, jobs, finances, promotions, yards, vehicles, you name it, they carry it. That alone is a heavy weight on and person’s shoulders. I challenge you to sit down with your husband and ask him what he would like you team up with him in prayer for, then remember all that he is carrying and began to speak the word of God over him and the situation. Sometimes we only need to speak the word!!! After all, its God’s word that will not return unto him void.

Jeremiah 1:12  Then the LORD said to me, “You have seen well, for I am watching over my word to perform it.”

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Is 55:11 So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.


And for those of us who are not yet married, but desire to be, pray for your future spouse. Began to find scriptures and write declarations what will speak life into, build, and edify him.  Speak the word!!!!


It begins with me….While I am Waiting

Life has this funny way of throwing curve balls at us and the unexpected just happens. It throws us for a loop and well “change” has to take place whether we like it and accept it or not. Change….its such a hard thing to do. Why? Because it is so full of the unexpected. Is that ever a consideration when we ask our families to change to make things better for us or when we tell our spouses that they need to stop the way they are doing things and do it the way we say it should be done? I remember when I first embarked on my home organization journey, it threw my family completely for a loop. Things were moved from the last place they remembered putting them and the cereal moved from the top of the refrigerator to its proper cereal container in the pantry. My family kicked and screamed because the unexpected had happened and they had to change.  The change started with me when I saw a better way for my family. I saw a system that worked and made complete sense, “create a place for everything and place it back there every time it is used.  If it is not useful then get rid of it. Less is more.”  I learned that system growing up, only now I needed to apply it to my life. Since I had not been applying it, I was not requiring it of my family. In order for me to require it of them, I first had to require it of myself.  It was easy for me to encourage my family and coach them through the household change because I had been through the change. I was the one who tore my house up and put it back together neatly. I was the first to run around the kitchen opening and closing cabinet doors trying to prepare dinner and asking myself why did I reorganize the kitchen in the first place. It was so easy for me to see things that others had left lying around the house, but the pill was super hard to swallow when I stepped into the laundry room, also known as my mess.  Guess what, I had to change and get it together.


As much as we want our families to change, we must realize that this change will start with us and will affect us. Not only will they change, but we will change too. Before we pray for the Lord to touch our spouses hearts and draw them closer to him, and before we ask him to help our children become more obedient, and respectful and possess a burning desire to be more like him and walk in his ways, we must first pray those things for ourselves. The change has to began with us.



Matthew 7:4-5 (NLT) How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.

 I had a prayer in mind as you can see, but as I ironed clothes, I felt something totally different in my spirit. The movie fireproof came to mind and the song While I’m Waiting(John Waller)  from the movie started to play in my head. Let this be our prayer instead.


Thank you for revealing to us the need to fast and pray for our ourselves as well as our families. Reveal to us the areas that we need to concentrate on cleaning up and organizing in our own personal lives. It is so easy to find fault and blame in others and say what they are not doing right or what they can do better and not see the mess we are standing in in our very own lives. We are not the best mothers and not the best wives. We fall short daily and it is by your grace Lord that we are able to accomplish what we have accomplished with our families.   We desire to be more like you. We want to love the way you love. Teach us how to respect our husbands and our children. Teach us how to balance the cares of life as well as the spiritual things. Let us not fall into hypocrisy Lord but teach us how to deal with ourselves first so that we can be effective in dealing with others. All that we want for our families we also want for ourselves. We desire to come out of this fast with more strength and more power and better tools than what we went in with. We accept the challenge to change our families through fasting and prayer and we accept the challenge that it first muse began with us!!!!!



Fast For Family

The very first ministry was marriage and from that stemmed family. Marriage and family is such a strong institution and its the one institution that impacts the world as a whole. Everyone came from a family be it dysfunctional, unknown, or fabulous. It Satan can attack family, he can impact the world. Readers, he is doing just that.

1 Peter 5:8 says Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.

He is tearing up our families by destroying the esteem and the manhood of our husbands/sons/fathers/brothers/uncles causing them to loose sight and focus. He is playing with their emotions telling them not to feel and when they do feel let it be anger and wrath or depression and helplessness. He wants them to be anything other than the men that God has called and ordained them to be. Because he doesn’t know, he doesn’t teach and another generation follows the same cycle.

By destroying our men he impacts the women/girls/daughters/nieces/mothers/wives who seek affirmation and love from the men in their lives. He takes away our security and causes us to rely on our own independence. We are no longer docile and submissive, instead we have become callus and bitter burdened with a weight that is not ours to carry, and guess what, we pass those traits on to our children.

Those exact words may not be what is impacting you and your family but believe me Satan is seeking some way in and he plans to destroy!!!! 

Sound the alarm!!! Families, marriages, relationships are under attack!!!!!

This revelation along with many conversations with a great friend of mine lead to the birth of this awesome Women’s prayer ministry, Fast for Family. Not to leave any of my brothers in Christ out of the loop, if you want you can help us fight as well.

Let’s Wage War on the enemy!!! 

Join the fight by linking up to our Facebook Page Fast for Family and staying updated with my partner in prayer Brandi, as we post weekly instructions for the fight. 

Every Wednesday we will be given a new assignment for self, husband, child, church leadership, and a family other than our own. The fast instructions are there as well as a few health tips for fasting properly.

I hope to feel you in the spirit as we fight!!!  Don’t forget, link up!

My Partner in Prayer


Brandi Hawthorne – Prayer Warrior, Blogger, and Motivational Speaker